Friday, February 19, 2010

More Changes

I have said for a while this year was going to be a year of change. Recently I got an email saying "I'm having surgery call me." Between the caregiver and medical nature I was quite worried, so I called and called, got another note that said going back in surgery.

My friend now sports huge pins and screws in his elbow.My first question was do you have any one to help you, his response while in the post op was "not realky." We talked a couple of days and we mutually decided that coming here to me would benefit us both. I am helping him recouperate and he just being here has helped a gazillion ways.

As for our relationship, we are taking it slow, really slow. We both are a little gun shy, so we both want to learn how to do it right. I can not say that this is the man of my dreams, he could be...we are slowly learning about each other as if it is a tiny seed planted in the ground that we are nurturing, not forcing to grow or put forth foliage before it's time.

I really couldn't have asked for better help. It always amazes me that he is here with pins and contraptions and his first question is "are you okay?" I wasn't going to say much for a while, but the little gentleman being the tattletale he is posted a note explaining enough that there is little for me to do other that reassure my family that I am not expecting this man to fix my life, it was simply an opportunity that presented itself and we are helping each other.

So, my feet are in the pond, but I am just walking around the perimeter with my pant legs rolled up. I am not jumping in head first, but slowly easing myself back into the part of life that we all want, but can so easily ruin.

So, I'm back, but moving slow as I had a nasty flu for three weeks, but I think this is going be a good change.

8 comments:

Tara R. said...

This sounds promising... hope your friend recovers from his surgery without any complications. Good luck to you both.

Anonymous said...

Are you saying you're taking things slowly when a new potential boyfriend is living with you?!

jojo said...

For gods sake, have the baby all ready and dad knows. And yes, it is possible to move slowly especially when one of the two has his arm fixed at ninety degrees and really hurts.

Anonymous said...

I swear to you that I'm not your sister or any relative, but it's funny that you think I am, as that means there's at least one other person out there trying to serve as a voice of reason to you. I'll stop posting on your blog. I need to stop reading it entirely, as I find the way you live your life really upsetting. Not for you, but for your children.

jojo said...

I find your quick judgements rude. My children are happy and having someone in my life who is making me happy is carrying over to all areas. If you had really read my blogs, you would have caught that they are in counseling and that the are my priority. As a matter of fact, due.to my health conditions we are all safer with another loving body in our home. Think what you will, but I'd like to know what cps would charge me with? I'd prefer if you didn't post nor visit, I also find the annonymous status cowardly. If you are going to judge someones life, why not put your name to it since you are obviously perfect.

Anonymous said...

I am done. I will delete your blog from my favorites, and I will never read it again. I think that would be best for both of us. I am not perfect, and have said nothing hateful or judging. I have only said what I said because I genuinely have concern for you and your children. I know you don't believe that, and that's ok. I don't think CPS would actually charge you with anything, and I would NEVER contact them about you. No need to respond to this; I will never be on this blog again. Good luck with everything in your life.

Anonymous said...

Anon agrees with Anon. I really think you should be more focused on you and your children instead of seaching for that "perfect man" to do the job for you. If you can not be brave enough to concour your lifes ups and downs then you are just plain lazy and teaching your children to do the same.

Anonymous said...

Anon agrees with Anon. I really think you should be more focused on you and your children instead of seaching for that "perfect man" to do the job for you. If you can not be brave enough to concour your lifes ups and downs then you are just plain lazy and teaching your children to do the same.